The Stylist wedding blog: why does planning bring out the worst in us?

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Natasha Tomalin

In light of the recent shocking revelation that a bride complained that the gift of £100 wasn’t enough, Stylist bride-to-be Natasha Tomalin contemplates why it is that we tend to get sidelined and stressed by the most ludicrous of details when planning a wedding...

I’ve had some pretty ridiculous conversations and behaviour surrounding my wedding already – mostly my own…

The time I went bridezilla with the caterers because they wouldn’t do exactly what I wanted, actually writing the words: “I won Journalist MasterChef four years ago! I know what works!” in an email.


Proof I actually did win journalist MasterChef when I looked like a child

Equally when I shouted at my Mum because she suggested having a cold starter for the wedding breakfast. Her response? “I know you don’t want to listen to me Natasha, but I’m trying to help you, please stop shouting at me!” 

Then there was the time I had a stress because the bridesmaids’ dresses weren’t ‘cool’ enough and had to send them all back – sorry ladies.

But I’m not the only one to have had these moments of glorified panic and stress for no reason.

I’ve had friends telling me that I better send the save the dates out quickly or else no-one will be able to make it (*rolls eyes*), and guests being very demanding about accommodation.

Most recently, my mum argued that asking for money for the honeymoon instead of having a gift list is just crass. A little storm cloud gathered above my head for all of 10 minutes before I realised that actually she’s probably right. Also, if we don’t have a wedding list people will panic and buy us all sorts of skull-related homeware.

Don’t get me wrong, I very much enjoy a skull-based object, hell I even have my very own count spatula, but I’d rather a nice chic set of linen than a skull-shaped cookie cutter to begin married life with.  

skull cookie cutter

If you don't have a list you could end up with this bad boy...

I think it’s all too easy to be blindsided by the minor, insignificant (and frankly bonkers) details.

EVERYONE will have an opinion on what you should do, and you know what? Let them have their opinion.

It might be helpful, it might not be. At the end of the day, a wedding is about two people standing up in front of their friends and family and declaring their love for one another and that is the most important thing.

Anyone who thinks anything different shouldn’t be getting married.

I'd love to hear your thoughts, so please post your comments below, or on Twitter @stylistmagazine and @natashatomalin, using the hashtag #Stylistweddingblog.